Discover everything you were never taught at school about how to lead a better life...
We spend years in school learning facts and figures but the one thing we're never taught is how to live a fulfilled life. That's why we need The School of Life - a real organisation founded ten years ago by writer and philosopher Alain de Botton. The School of Life has one simple aim: to equip people with the tools to survive and thrive in the modern world. And the most important of these tools is emotional intelligence.
This book brings together ten years of essential and transformative research on emotional intelligence, with practical topics including:
- how to understand yourself
- how to master the dilemmas of relationships
- how to become more effective at work
- how to endure failure
- how to grow more serene and resilient
Extracts from the Book:
On The Difficulty of Self-knowledge
“One of our greatest challenges is to understand the peculiar content of our own minds. We may look like the ultimate owners of our skulls but we remain practical strangers to much of what unfolds within them. A casual acquaintance may, in a few minutes of conversation, deduce more about our psyches than we have been able to determine across many decades. We are frequently the very last people to know what is at work within ‘us’.”
On The Weakness of Strength
“We should in our most impatient and intemperate moments strive to hold on to the concept of the weakness of strength. This dictates that we should interpret people’s weaknesses as the inevitable down-side of certain merits that drew us to them, and from which we will benefit at other points. What we’re seeing are not their faults, pure and simple, but rather the shadow side of things that are genuinely good about them.”
On Intuition vs. Analysis
“Decisions must not always be probed too hard, or moods unpacked. We should respect and not tinker with emotions, especially as they relate to love and the spiritual varieties of experience. We need to fall silent – more frequently than we do – and simply listen."